We have friends that have one baby and friends who have four. Us first time mums over-worry and over-compensate we probably over-research too. I also self reflect when I’m around mum’s who have multiple children- observing how they discipline or how they manage multiple children. How do they split their time? Do I like the dynamics- are there things I can do better or implement with Ava? I self examine way too much but that’s something to explore another day and time.
Last week, on Thursday morning to be accurate I picked Ava up out of her crib around 7am, we brought her into our bed (like normal) while Greg went and made her up her bottle. Her and I lay staring at each other- sharing kisses and baby babble. We went through her morning ritual of asking where all the people were that she knows- papa, bubu, tutu, nanny.. they are constant questions throughout the day..
Greg brought her bottle up and she proceeded to drink most of it (like normal) but then she sat up, turned to me and said poo-poo.
Back-story we have been working on pointing out the potty to her. Telling her no more nappies.. poo poo goes in the toilet (she calls the toilet ‘toto’).
I put her down and we raced to the bathroom. I took her nappy off, put her on the potty and after about 10 seconds I saw the little trickle of wee going into the potty! This may be too much information but this is a parenting blog for goodness sake.. We yelled and celebrated- we shared multiple high fives.. Greg even got out of bed and gave her a few high-fives! Once she had finished I grabbed some toilet paper and just sat there looking at her partly because I didn’t know what to do- do I lean her forward and wipe, do I have her stand and wipe, what happens to the toilet paper- do I put it straight into the big toilet or teach her to put it in the potty.. so many questions…and I partly sat there startled that we had reached another milestone. I am seriously tearing up typing about this experience. We had, week after week, encouraged her to go to the potty and now that she had she had crossed into this new stage of independence. Our once little baby girl who couldn’t even hold her head up is going to the bathroom by herself!
When you are married you quickly form a rhythm and routine with your new spouse, with young children everything is new and exciting- new skills are learnt constantly, milestones are faced and conquered..what a journey it continues to be!
I have found motherhood to be full of great mountain top experiences of joy and proudness and at the same time deep dark valleys of fogginess and exhaustion. This balancing act, I’m sure, doesn’t get any easier as they grow, but boy do they grow and I am blessed to be able to watch that happen and be right alongside her for every experience!