I’ve been debating whether to post this or not for the fear of being seen so controversial but to be honest I felt that everything that’s to follow needed to be said.. for all women out there who will one day face the exact same situation I’ve experienced.
Breast feeding vs bottle feeding..
I read an Instagram post while I was pregnant which said something to the extent of ‘we support you women who can produce milk but choose to formula feed’. Choosing to bottlefeed formula as opposed to breastfeeding isn’t an easy decision, for some they don’t make enough milk, for others it’s a matter of mental health or perhaps for medical reasons you actually cannot breastfeed- whatever the reason you do not need to justify yourself.
Yes, midwives and hospital posters- we know, breastfed is best. Yes, random stranger who sees you pour formula into a sterilised bottled- we know it would be so much “easier” to just use what God has designed our bodies to produce but we’re not going for what is “best” by the standards of research or what is “easier” by the standards of convenience- we’re going for what works for me and my family.
So if you choose to formula feed and not even try breast feeding I cheer for you. I had a moment a few weeks ago where Raegan was struggling to poo (I know TMI..)- we were going on a few days. She would cry and only pass wind so I knew it was hurting her- I thought it may be the formula.. with tears in my eyes I felt to see if I had any milk (I had worked on suppressing my milk straight after she was born)- I barely had anything.. I felt so guilty for a split second and then snapped myself out of it and started working through exercises to help her poo. I was feeling guilty because of what other people had shamed me into thinking and feeling which was not okay.
So here we are 4 weeks later, she is actually a month old tomorrow and we are growing and thriving! We’re working out new routines for the girls and I and we are loving life (most days)! If you are where I was a few weeks ago, mumma, you have chosen to do what is best- don’t let anyone make you question your decision or shame you into thinking you’re not a great mum!
Well, on the 6th of May at 8:52pm Miss Raegan Jean decided to join us! After a quick labour (more to come on that another day) we were delighted to welcome her! I’m feeling amazing and the entire family is absolutely smitten including her big Sister Ava! I can’t wait to share more photos and thoughts on being mum of TWO girls!
Instagram has definitely connected the world in a lot of wonderful ways such as me being able to find boutique small businesses that I would never have come across had I not used hashtags or spent a few time looking around on insta! Below are some of my favourite baby items for our new little one that I am loving!one- Linen Bow (3 little crowns) | two- Jumpsuit (Zara) | three- Cashmere Set (Zara) | four- Amie Dress (Jamie Kay) | five- Beret (Janie & Jack) | six- Muslin Swaddle (3 little crowns) | seven- Tiny Girl Gang T-shirt (Jean and June) Picture source here | eight- Newborn Moccasins (Freshly Picked)
Since having Ava I have to plan when I shower/wash my hair/what time of morning I get changed- mostly everything has a routine! Ava’s at the stage where she lunges for things so simply putting her on the bed now is no longer an option (unless we put her all the way in the middle and check on her every minute or so). I think I have worn my hair in the same style since Ava was born- it’s super hard to get creative when your priority is not yourself anymore..
Anyways.. I haven’t done a round up of outfits lately so I wanted to cover what I think a ‘mum uniform’ is for me. In movies mums are always portrayed in their gym pants or tracksuit pants with an oversized hoodie dropping their kids off to school.. if you are one of these people- no judgement here.. I just cannot mentally cope with the day if I don’t put on something semi-presentable (to me).
These are a few of my go-to outfits or forms of them- they are all super affordable and mum-appropriate!
From left to right (clockwise)
Green Shirt Dress | Scarf | Shoes
Denim Top | Skirt | Shoes
Khaki Dress | Cardigan | Heels
Parka (similar) | Skirt | T-shirt | Boots
My beautiful baby girl! You brighten all my tomorrows, and have enlarged my heart more than I could have ever imagined. We watch sunrises together and enjoy quiet times in the middle of the night. While the broken sleep has taken some getting used to, we are grateful that you are growing and needing food to help grow that little body of yours! You frown and smile and are starting to find your little voice- we can’t wait to hear you laugh. Thank you Lord for making me a Mum- something I will never take for granted. While everything else in life has slowed down, you, my baby girl have come like a whirlwind and changed our lives! ❤️
This, my friends, is a picture from my night on Thursday…I couldn’t help but feel an overwhelming sense of thankfulness as I sat on the couch with Ava asleep on my lap.
Motherhood has been one learning experience after another- learning Ava’s feeding cues and distinguishing her cries, laughing over the new sounds she makes and feeling in awe of how much she is growing every day! While she can’t talk yet and is still very much in a cycle of sleeping and eating all day every day it has been life changing watching her grow and knowing that she is our little bundle of joy! I love our little girl so much already..
I initially started listing all the things I was thankful for but the list was becoming too extensive- we would be here all weekend! Just the simple act of holding Ava as she fell asleep led me to be thankful for so many things:
..formula (so she didn’t go hungry),
..a roof over our heads (protecting us from the wind and rain),
..two arms (so I could hold her),
..blankets and clothing (to keep us warm as we sat downstairs)
..both our health’s
It’s easy to always be wanting things- bigger homes, newer cars, more furniture, new electronics, a better job – sometimes you need to just take a breath and think on all the things you have already been blessed with!